Why Self Belief is Irrelevant

Why Self Belief is Irrelevant

Jen wrote to me during the week, she wants to stop bingeing, lose weight and change her life. She’s tried and failed more times than she can remember. She desperately wants to try again but is at the point where she’s not even sure she has the ability to change. She’s feeling hopeless and has totally lost belief in herself.

 

This idea that everything starts with self belief is dangerous in my view. How often have you heard words like - “You can do anything you want to! All you gotta do is believe!” The far too common mantra - “Dream. Believe. Achieve.” - is plastered over the walls of sports clubs all around the world. These are nice catch-phrases but they are largely pointless.

 

My rock solid belief that I could out run Usain Bolt over 100 metres means absolutely nothing when I can’t even beat my wife in a sprint (leave me alone, she’s actually really fast!). Believing that I could beat Mike Tyson is going to get me knocked into another dimension. Believing I could beat up the security guard at my local pub is going to get me seriously hurt! Plenty of people have died because they believed they could fly.

 

Self belief is irrelevant. You don’t need to believe that you can lose 100kgs, just that you can eat a potato. If you can eat a potato, or a salad, or some rice and beans or some fruit then you most certainly can lose all the weight you want because the entire process only requires that you repeat those actions. To run a marathon you don’t have to believe you can finish, you only have to believe you can take the next step. Then do it. Over and over.

 

Self belief comes from ACTION. Self belief comes from DOING. The truth is that I honestly didn’t believe I could do my year long Spud Fit Challenge. I really didn’t think I had it in me to change my life. I did want to try though and I did believe it was possible to eat potatoes for breakfast on day one. So I did.

 

In order to run a marathon you don’t have to believe you can, you just have to train. After 6 months of hard work, getting training sessions done day after day after day, you’ll be able to run a marathon. Self belief is easy at that point because you’ve done the work and you know exactly what you are capable of.

 

Stop wasting time on developing self belief with various mind games, that’s a fool’s errand. ACTION is all that matters.

 

Dream. ACT. Achieve.

 

Spud up!

Andrew

 

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4 Comments
  • Alper Yilmaz
    Posted at 18:11h, 05 April Reply

    Dream Act, Believe: Because of your words Andrew, I saved near 3 thousand Canadian dollars as a student. (Before I'd been spending on video games. Because I was a video game addiction.) Then, I realized that food addiction and video-game addiction are the same things.

    I set your Spud-Fit challenge and changed as Video-Fit challenge. (Maybe I can find something better later.) And, you know what. It worked.

    Plus, before your words, I did spend my whole money on the mind-Mombo jumbo books. Self-Love tricks, gratitude, etc. No, I was still game addictive.

    When near to lost my hope to solve that problem. I found you through youtube surfing. And, again you know what.

    Your Spud-Fit thing pushed me to see my problem achievable.

    Long story short "In freaking 6 months I didn't touch any computer games. And, read a lot of books. Learned English (Still learning though).

    I just wanted to let you know about it, Thank you, Andrew. You saved my ass.

    • admin
      Posted at 05:19h, 16 April Reply

      This is so amazing! Well done! Thanks so much for letting me know!
      Yes I think all addictions have lots of similarities. I'm so happy that I've been able to help you!

  • emma. m.
    Posted at 05:19h, 12 April Reply

    Yes. Thank you. I was told about you today - felt like the woman who wrote to you, read your blog response and intend to act.

    • admin
      Posted at 05:15h, 16 April Reply

      So glad to be able to help. Thanks for letting me know

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